Loss and Anger

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

When I was in the fifth grade my stepmom, the woman who had helped raise my brothers and I as if we were her own, passed away. After she passed, it left me with my dad and brothers and I wasn’t entirely sure how to act or respond. I was full of anger, emptiness, sadness, confusion, you name it. Instead of turning to the Lord, I acted out. I decided I would be mad at the world and that I would be mean to anyone who tried to comfort me about the situation.

Volleyball ShelbyAs humans, we are going to have to face a lot of hardship and loss. We will face situations where we may not know how to respond, and sadly, losing a loved one is only one example of a struggle that people have to face every single day. But, it is up to us as followers of Christ to not act out of anger or let our pain stray us away from God, but instead let it allow us to cling to Him and pray to Him asking for guidance and acceptance. Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

In my own case, I didn’t begin to see my heart change until I began to rely on the comfort of God and the help of others. In learning this about myself, it helped benefit me for future events. Loss isn’t just found in the death of a loved one. It can show up in something small like getting last place at a track meet or maybe something big like just losing your job. There are so many ways that loss can take shape in our lives. So, the next time you are faced with a difficult loss, whether it is big or small, I challenge you, Covenant Academy, to not turn your back on your faith in the Lord. Seek his guidance and wisdom in the steps to come that He has planned for you.

Shelby and Faith

I would like to end my reflection by sharing with you something I’ve learned over the few years I’ve been here at Covenant. No matter how big or small the loss, you will never be defeated because the one thing you need and will never lose is Christ. He will always be there.


Shelby in ChapelAs part of their training in Rhetoric, our students in grades ten and up are required to develop and present a brief presentation to the school body during Chapel with guidance from their instructors and school curriculum. Each student presentation must be understandable and relevant to all age groups. Sowing seeds of rhetoric training by requiring them speak to all age levels has yielded a harvest for all to enjoy.

This week’s presentation was given by Shelby, one of our tenth grade students (pictured).